Decent Vs. Mean Parents
Were Your Parents Mean?
Decent Parents Need to Be mean at times .. And My mother was the meanest of all ..
They are mean for a reason. As we grow into adults we know why our moms and dads were mean. Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, to Act Mean ..
I will tell them:
I loved you enough... to ask where you were going, with whom, and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough... to insist that you independently commute using public transport.
I loved you enough... to be silent and let you discover that few of your good friends are creep.
I loved you enough... to say sorry to the clerk and pay for the perfume you had stolen from the mall and acted as if if was a mistake .. hiding all that was happening inside me ..
I loved you enough... to fume over you and insisting you to take care of house hold chores undertaken by kids of your age ..
I loved you enough... to let you see my anger, my disappointments, and tears in my eyes. Children must learn that their parents aren't perfect.
I loved you enough... to let you assume the responsibility for your actions even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
But most of all, I loved you enough... to say NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
Those are the most difficult battles of all. I'm glad I won them because in the end they made you a winner, too. And someday when your children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them....
I had the meanest mother in the whole world! Hated by few of my friends even today ..
She Always reacted in my favor .. even if i or anyone else .. didn't like ..
She insisted on knowing where i was at all times .. You'd think I was any convict in a prison.
She had to know who my friends were, and what we were doing together. She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.
Some Moms have the nerve to break the Child Labor Laws by making their kids work. They had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs.
She always insisted me telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
By the time I was teenager, she could read my mind. Then, life was really tough!
Not all mothers and fathers would let kids friends just honk the horn when they drove up. They need to come up to the door so they could meet them.
While every girl in the neighborhood could wear clothes showing off their skin .. not all dads find it decent ..
Because of our parents we missed out on lots of things other kids experienced.
Because of These Mean Parents .. many of us have never engaged or been caught shoplifting, vandalizing others' property or ever arrested for any crime.
It is all their fault.
Now that I have grown up, have family of my own .. with it's unique challenges and proposition .. my own children .. growing children who think they know it all and smarter than the world they live in ..
I am doing my best to be a mean parent just like I had .. and expecting my partner to be meaner than me myself ..
I think that is what's wrong with the world today. It just doesn't have enough mean moms and dads.